A quick tribute to the selfie…
Because selfies helped me love myself.
As I’ve said many times before, I’ve always had issues with my body, and growing up being labeled as the fat kid by both my friends and family didn’t help either. It was hard, being uncomfortable in a form that everyone, including myself, had no love for. Though I loved performing and being in the spotlight, I never enjoyed having my picture taken because the thought of having that ugly thing captured on film forever was upsetting to put it mildly.
During the course of my transition, I did a lot of self-reflection and began deconstructing many of the anxieties I experienced. And that took a lot of work and a lot of time. I’m still learning, and unlearning.
In starting this series, I wanted to make a proper effort to embrace who I was and part of that was accepting that I’m not that ugly thing I once thought myself to be. And taking selfies everyday and posting that with intimate bits of my life has really gave me a confidence in myself I’ve never had before.
I know I’m just an amateur photographer who just started taking photos for this little blog, but in some of those photos, I LOOK FUCKING AMAZING! My skin is glowing, my hair’s all shiny, and I feel good about myself.
That’s a huge thing for me. People talk about loving and embracing yourself so easily but it can be so easy to forget that, for some people, it’s a really hard thing to do. And it can be the hardest thing to live in a society that others and ridicules those who don’t fit the cisgender heteronormative standards of beauty.
So here’s to all those who are considered other, who don’t fit the norm, who are censored for being who they are, who are the beating heart of all things compassionate and kind in this world. Here’s to you all. Here’s to your beauty.
And here’s to a lifetime of self- and selfie-love!