Day 29: Selfie

#30DaysOfSelfCare A quick tribute to the selfie… Because selfies helped me love myself. As I’ve said many times before, I’ve always had issues with my body, and growing up being labeled as the fat kid by both my friends and family didn’t help either. It was hard, being uncomfortable in a form that everyone, including

Day 28: Surgery

#30DaysOfSelfCare One of the things that people often asked me, now even more so that I’ve been blogging about my experience, is whether or not I’ve had or plan on having surgery. As a transgender woman, there are a number of options available to you if you decide to transition. In terms of a medically

Day 26: Fourteen

CW: SEXUAL VIOLENCE #30DaysOfSelfCare In my life I have done what I thought was best for me, with the knowledge and skills I had at the time. I made choices. And sometimes choices were made for me. And I want to briefly talk about something that happened to me while growing up. Throughout my life,

Day 25: Haul

#30DaysOfSelfCare It’s Monday, it’s grey outside, I didn’t sleep properly, I have work piling up, and it’s not like I’m a ray of emotional sunshine either. So this is not such a great start to the week. Fortunately, retail therapy is here to save the day! With all that doom and gloom shadowing my mood,

Day 23: Reinvent

#30DaysOfSelfCare This week has destroyed me. I’ve been dealing with something really personal this last while and it’s been particularly difficult because it so close to me. I can’t talk about it just yet, but I’ll share it with you when I’m ready and not an emotional wreck. That said, sometimes the best remedy for

Day 22: Visibility

#30DaysOfSelfCare Happy International Transgender Day of Visibility ! ! ! This time last year I wasn’t out to all my friends and family. It was difficult because I didn’t know how to tell them. Not only did I have no idea what to say, I didn’t even have the vocabulary to fully understand and articulate

Day 20: Script

#30DaysOfSelfCare A quick lesson in humility. So, yesterday I was at Groote Schuur Hospital for my repeat script for HRT. I’m there every two months to pick up my medication but, somehow, things never go to plan at the hospital. I don’t want to go into the agonizing details of the experience, so I’m cutting a