Day 28: Surgery

#30DaysOfSelfCare One of the things that people often asked me, now even more so that I’ve been blogging about my experience, is whether or not I’ve had or plan on having surgery. As a transgender woman, there are a number of options available to you if you decide to transition. In terms of a medically

Day 27: Soup

#30DaysOfSelfCare There are days when the writing’s easy, and days where the words won’t come. Then there are days when the writing comes, but the words won’t leave. Writing yesterday’s post, Day 26: Fourteen, really took a lot out of me. I’d been thinking about writing about it since I started the series, but I

Day 26: Fourteen

CW: SEXUAL VIOLENCE #30DaysOfSelfCare In my life I have done what I thought was best for me, with the knowledge and skills I had at the time. I made choices. And sometimes choices were made for me. And I want to briefly talk about something that happened to me while growing up. Throughout my life,

Day 25: Haul

#30DaysOfSelfCare It’s Monday, it’s grey outside, I didn’t sleep properly, I have work piling up, and it’s not like I’m a ray of emotional sunshine either. So this is not such a great start to the week. Fortunately, retail therapy is here to save the day! With all that doom and gloom shadowing my mood,

Day 24: Breathe

#30DaysOfSelfCare In dealing with shit, there are these little spaces, moments of solace during the thick of depression and feels, that can be a saving grace. This morning is such a moment. I’ve really been struggling with this thing (I’m not quite ready to name it yet) and it’s made me an emotional wreck this

Day 22: Visibility

#30DaysOfSelfCare Happy International Transgender Day of Visibility ! ! ! This time last year I wasn’t out to all my friends and family. It was difficult because I didn’t know how to tell them. Not only did I have no idea what to say, I didn’t even have the vocabulary to fully understand and articulate

Day 21: Tomorrow

#30DaysOfSelfCare Goodbyes are difficult and I often struggle to say how I feel to the person in person, because too many feels. So I’m going to try here. I’m honestly sometimes a terrible human being because I so rarely tell people just how much they matter to me and how much I appreciate them. Not