Day 22: Visibility
Happy International Transgender Day of Visibility ! ! !
This time last year I wasn’t out to all my friends and family. It was difficult because I didn’t know how to tell them. Not only did I have no idea what to say, I didn’t even have the vocabulary to fully understand and articulate myself and my identity.
It took me a really long time to work up the courage to be out and be seen by my friends, family, and the world. I had felt invisible for most of my life and I had no point of reference or had no one to speak to who could directly relate to my experience, and so I had to navigate everything on my own. That was hard. But it allowed me an opportunity to grow in ways I could never imagine.
Learning how to be myself may have been an entirely different experience if there were visible trans people in my life. And this, for me, if part of what makes TDOV so important.
Today, I’m taking the time to recognise all the trans people around the world and to celebrate them. These visible heroes are part of an incredible community and I’m so proud to be a part of it. They give me the powers to be visible and share my story.
That said, it’s also a time to recognise all those who feel they are unable to be visible yet. Some are facing extraordinary circumstances of discrimination, bullying, and intolerance, and so understanding these circumstances and providing assistance to those who’s wellbeing and safety need to be protected is paramount.
Thank you for allowing me the space to feel safe and to share these bits of my life with you. I hope to continue to live as visibly as I possibly can.
Because representation matters.
Trans lives matter.